Knowing what to do doesn't guarantee we'll do it. A reflection on the gap between awareness and action — and why growth may not be what we assume.
The Moment Before the Anger: Where the Boundary Was Needed All Along
We notice the anger because it's loud. The decisions that preceded it were almost silent. A reflection on capacity, the quiet yeses, and the boundary that was needed several decisions before the reaction ever arrived.
Self-Trust: Why We Keep Justifying Our Own Decisions
There is a place near the ocean where I put down everything I have been carrying — the unfinished work, the decisions, the quiet internal defence I keep rehearsing. What I find there is enough space to hear what I already know.
Arguing With the Day – Impatience and Acceptance
Nothing went smoothly all day — disappeared files, a wrong turn, keys in the recycling bin — and then I sat in Friday traffic on a drive I had chosen, arguing with its conditions. A reflection on impatience, acceptance, and patience as a capacity that expands and contracts rather than a trait we either have or lack.
How We Drift From Ourselves Under Pressure
We don't leave ourselves all at once. We drift — one pressured decision at a time — until a feeling quietly becomes the whole story of who we are. This week on Reflections, a quiet drive through Vermont and what it reminded me about coming home to myself. The question I came back with: who is the version of yourself you've stopped visiting?
A Feeling Is Not an Identity
A good day. An unexplained sadness. And the moment a feeling almost became an identity — until it didn't.
Chasing Money, or Chasing the Inner State You Think It Will Produce?
Somewhere along the way, a number became the measure of whether we're okay. This week's reflection looks at what actually happens once the milestone arrives — and what it was never built to deliver.
The Hidden Cost of Constant Urgency
Urgency triggers the nervous system. That's not a metaphor — it's biology. And what makes manufactured urgency so effective is that the brain can't always tell the difference between a real deadline and a countdown timer designed to make you feel like one exists. The cost shows up quietly: decisions that feel harder than they should, a reset that no longer arrives, a week that ends without clarity on what actually mattered. Learning to distinguish real urgency from borrowed pressure isn't a productivity skill. It's a judgment skill.
The Gap Between Who You Know Yourself To Be and How You Show Up Under Pressure
You can know exactly who you want to be under pressure — and still not show up that way. That gap between intention and impact is where the real work lives. Awareness alone doesn't close it. The body has to learn a different response.
The Lighthouse Got Vetoed: What We Get Wrong About Presence and Performance
Corporate coaching has a look. My lighthouse didn't fit it. But what got vetoed from my website turned out to be the most accurate metaphor I have for what high performers actually get wrong about presence and performance.
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