Understanding Your Inner Child and Stopping Self-Abandonment

Last week, I wrote about the five signals your inner child sends when it needs attention. Today, I want to tell you what happens when you finally start listening.

Why I wrote Inner Child Freedom

For decades, I mistook overachieving for safety and busyness for worth. I became everyone’s steady rock—and quietly abandoned myself in the process. If you’ve been here a while, you’ve watched me peel that story back. You saw the burnout that gutted me. You witnessed the brave choice to slow down. You watched the long walk back to my own voice.

Listening to my inner child wasn’t a cute journaling exercise. It was a reckoning. She was the part of me that remembered what I needed before I learned to perform for love. I needed rest, play, gentleness, and honesty. Once I started listening, I saw where I’d settled. I realized where I’d silenced myself. I noticed that I was still choosing chaos because quiet felt unfamiliar.

Inner Child Freedom is the book I needed then. It’s a map for anyone who suspects they’re living a version of life. This version looks successful from the outside. However, it feels hollow on the inside. It’s not about staying stuck in the past. It’s about repairing the bridge between who you were taught to be. It also connects with who you truly are.

“Self-abandonment ends the moment you honor the smallest honest need in you—and follow through.”

What’s inside the book

Practices to reconnect with your inner child

This isn’t theoretical. You’ll find grounded, 5–10 minute practices you can use daily:

• The Safe Place Reset: a guided visualization to meet (and soothe) your younger self.
• The Love/Fear Dialogue: a compassionate script to de-escalate inner conflict in real time.
• Body-Based Check-ins: Micro Somatic Rituals to Translate Sensations into Clear Needs.

How to break patterns of self-abandonment

We get practical about the patterns that keep you looping:

• People-pleasing detox: loving boundary scripts and “repair without over-explaining.”
• Chaos chemistry: why calm felt “boring” (and how to rewire your nervous system for peace).
• Attachment healing: moving from anxious/avoidant cycles to secure, self-led relating.

Tools for building lasting self-compassion

Self-compassion isn’t indulgence; it’s sustainability.

• Compassionate self-forgiveness (without spiritual bypassing).
• Identity-level shifts: from “I fix myself” to “I support myself.”
• Integration pages & journal prompts at the end of each chapter so the learning becomes living.

“When you stop abandoning yourself, you don’t become selfish—you become trustworthy to your own heart.”

What happens when you start listening

Life gets simpler—first on the inside, then on the outside. Decisions that used to take days shrink to minutes. This happens because your inner child’s needs are no longer dismissed or debated. Instead, they’re respected. You stop performing for approval. You start choosing alignment. This quietly upgrades everything: how you love, how you work, how you rest.

For me, listening meant adjusting my pace, my boundaries, my approach to business, and my relationships. It meant fewer apologies and more presence. It meant letting joy be ordinary again. Ocean walks, cookie-making with the kids, and laughter at the kitchen table became a regular part of life. I no longer needed to earn it.

🌱 Try This: The Two-Minute Inner-Child Check-In

Before you close this page, take a breath.
Let your shoulders drop. Relax your jaw. Feel the ground holding you.

Place one hand on your heart and one on your belly.
Then ask yourself, softly but clearly:

“What am I feeling right now?”
“What do I need most in this moment?”

Don’t chase an answer—just notice what rises.
Maybe it’s tiredness, tenderness, or the simple wish to be seen.
That’s your inner child speaking. Listening begins here.

Most of us were taught to fix, prove, or perform.
This practice interrupts that habit.
Every time you pause and ask instead of push, you’re rewriting the pattern of self-abandonment.

Try it once a day this week. You’ll be amazed how quickly self-trust rebuilds when you start keeping your own small promises.

The invitation

Inner Child Freedom launches October 15. If you’ve been following these posts on inner child work, this book is the next step in that journey. It is clear, compassionate, and actionable.

👉 Pre-order here: Inner Child Freedom

Thank you for being here, for reading, and for doing this work alongside me. Your presence matters—to me, to you, and to the younger version of you who’s been waiting to be heard.

With love,
Myriam

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